Show up for yourself before showing up for others is a concept I learned from my friends Pete and Jen. When we spend time feeding our hunger to be our true selves, we get to act with more intention, generosity, and love.
It's a circle of energy.
And, when Guilt shows up to intervene and say, "you have to put others first". Tell Guilt that's not fair.
You're in charge.
Guilt isn't.
If you had to write yourself a reference letter, what would you say?
How would that reference letter look different than the one your best coworker, boss, or friend would write?
The best references I've ever given came from a place of love. I shared the magic that that person brings into the world as a human, not just as a worker—their real skills.
The best references articulate the unique superpowers a person brings when they show up as their true self.
It can be harder to name your own uniqueness, yet the hard work of understanding your values, gifts, and why is worthwhile, important work.
“People will think I’m if weird if I...”
If what comes next is something that scares you and that’s why you’re waiting to do it, do it.
If we strip away what others think, we can add more of our magic into the world.